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Often times it doesn’t matter what you do with your kids, they just want to know that you’re there for them and that you love them. As a parent, of course you have to learn how to say no, so that your kid doesn’t grow up to be a spoiled brat.

Saying no can be a hard thing to do; especially when they look at you with those cute little puppy dog eyes. How could you possibly say no to that? As the parent, you have to stick to your guns; so to speak, and stand your ground. I know how easy it is to just give in to them and give them what they want so they’ll leave you alone and, that can have dire consequences. If you need proof; just look at how many people are incarcerated in today’s society. That picture, is the direct result of bad parenting; in my opinion.

Remember, you’re the parent, you’re in charge, and you make the rules. It’s your job to be responsible. Yes; I said it, parenting is a job. You don’t get paid in a monetary sense and yet, you do get paid in love, pride, and feelings of internal joy. You get to relate to another human being and be a living example for your child. You get to be a role model and you get to show them everything you know when the time is right.

I say when the time is right because there are certain things in life that are age appropriate. For example, talking about sex or learning how to drive; there has to be a certain level of maturity for these things.

I think it’s important to relate to your child on their level. This teaches your child the importance of interaction and it gets them involved in something that isn’t just about themselves. This is all a growing process for both you and your child. You may only notice the child’s growth and, other adults will notice the change in you.

Some other things that you and your child learn, is how to communicate with each other. Every single person is an individual and that’s an important thing to remember when you are dealing with children. I think our society has the habit of putting people into a stereotyped group with the assumption that they are all the same. Granted, they may be the same in a certain area or with a certain characteristic and, the important thing to remember is that each one is an individual with different wants and needs, with different learning styles and with different values.

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All too often a lot of single moms feel that they have to be “super mom” and not expect or ask for any help. If you are among the super moms, you run a great risk of parenting burn out. We are all human and we all fall short of “doing it all” at some point. Hey, it’s tough enough raising kids as a 2-parent family. That goes double for single parents, especially single moms raising 2 or more children.

 

So is it OK to ask for help or support when you’re trying to raise 2 or more kids? It’s not only OK, it is suggested. Remember as a single mom, you have to work hard to bring home the bacon without depending on any child support, whether you are receiving it or not. You never know when that money will run out.

 

You also have to raise your kids to be compassionate and responsible adults. That’s not an easy task in today’s world. For single moms it is quite the challenge. You are responsible for your child’s schooling, the clothes they wear, the food they eat, and also the air they breathe. Let’s face it, anyway you look at it, that’s a tall order for any single mom raising 2 or more kids.

For the moms out there that don’t think they are “super mom” and are not reluctant at seeking advice, there are a lot of practical things you can do for support in general, financially or otherwise.

Let’s take a look at 6 of those things

* Take good care of yourself – There is so much more to this than one might think. Pay attention to your body and mind. You have to first take care of yourself in order to take care of your kids. Exercise daily. Eat right and drink plenty of water to keep yourself hydrated. Get plenty of sleep. Watch your stress levels and try to avoid it at all costs. Smile, try it! It helps relieve stress.

* Join parenting network support groups – These can be in the form of online message boards, support websites, online chat groups, offline support group centers, and your church community.

* Start a parenting journal – This will strictly be for you as a parent and should be kept private. Writing in a journal can be quite therapeutic for some people. You can write about specific goals about parenting, anger management, and even special goals for yourself.

* Consider a roommate – Save a considerable amount of money on living expenses and have companionship at the same time. You will also have someone to swap babysit dates with. Your roommate will watch all the kids for one day, and then you take your turn at it. Beautiful concept if you are all for having a roommate. Some people like living alone and is a preference.

* Always show your love – Of course it’s crucial to your child that they know you love them. But there are special ways of showing your love. Give plenty of hugs, kids love them! Write a special message on a piece of paper and hide it in their school bag or lunch box. Show positive praise. Positive comments and encouragement goes a long way with your child’s self esteem and confidence.

* Discipline – Most often discipline is the most sought after advice for single moms. One important thing I have learned personally is controlling anger. If your child sees you angry while trying to discipline them, this gives them leverage to push your buttons even further. If you don’t get a handle on controlling your anger, you are sunk before you even begin.

“Stick to your guns” is also a famous motto you should always practice. If you tell your child one thing and then back out on it, what good is discipline in the first place?

Use your gut instincts with parenting and stay true to what you believe is the right thing for your children.

 

 

Article Written By Tammy Embrich

You will find more articles by Tammy at Parenting Articles

 

Also Tammy is the founder of Work At Home Jobs, a free work at home resource website offering free job leads, work at home articles, tips, and more.

Being single parent  is hard choice. It’s really tough for those experience such matter accidentally  and as a result they are not capable to shoulder the responsibility.  It is truly overwhelming to take care of a child, especially when your young child solely relies on you for the whole matter, for food, shelter and even education in the future. Indeed, single parent has to work twice than people should be doing. It particularly happens when raising their children by themselves without any help from their partners.

But don’t be panic. Same with other matter that you will have to solve in life, there are many solutions to conquer such situations. Below are 4 tips you should carry out to survive single parenting.

Establish a close and loving relationship with your child

Treat your child as partner now. You can rely your life only on her or him, similarly your child can depend only on you. Build a strong and close relationship with him or her while your child is still young. If you carry out, you are going to be happy when they mature

Find and join community for young single parenting

Don’t worry. You are not the only one who experience the above matter. Therefore find  community for young single parenting to get help or support. It’s very helpful to join such support group., you can share problem and learn experience each other. By this way, you can face your future matter without doubt.

Give yourself time to heal

You have been burned. Don’t be hurried and in the hunt for love right off. Give yourself time to make well and to find yourself again. Getting into the dating scene again for merely looking for another mate is a no-no. For the moment, make your child as main concern in your life and just face that aspect in your life when the right time comes. And when is that? You’ll know when.

Know clearly who your main concern is

You should know clearly who your priority is. Certainly you should set your child as first priority and  then it can be your career that provide well for your child. By knowing your main concern and having specific goals, you will focus what you should carry out. It will be helpful during moments when you are tempted to turn back on your responsibility or just surrender.

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