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Bedtime rituals may seem unimportant and old fashioned in today’s modern age, but as any parent will tell you if you implement them early enough, you will have substantially less hassles with your kids at bedtime.

From a psychological point of view young children need  rituals at bedtime, it is a winding down time at the end of a very long day, but it reinforces that you care enough for your child to spend time to send him or her off to bed happy and content. During the day you have bonded with your child and helped them learn new skills, but at the end of the day bedtime rituals allow you to reconnect and read to your baby.

A bedtime ritual of reading is a crucial aspect of child development and learning through repetition.  No child is ever too young to start a daily reading ritual. Rituals at bedtime are also important to toddlers and young children because it reinforces the message that you are a family and you want to talk to them at the end of the day. It is often the time when parents get to hear what goes on in their child’s life. If there is more than one sibling there may not be another opportunity in the day to get the time to speak to a parent alone.

Parents also need their own rituals at bedtime. Caring for children is mentally and physically draining. It is as important for parents, or even a single parent, to have time to themselves after the children have gone to bed. Baby books recommend this, but psychologically it is something all parents definitely need.  It’s an opportunity to recharge their batteries and talk about adult things and relax. You are not a bottomless pit and you cannot give to your children without taking a break for yourself.

Once you have established bedtime rituals for your kids you can then take some time to unwind yourself. Having said that it is not necessarily the easiest thing in the world to establish bedtime rituals, most children at some time in their young lives resist them. They do a variety of things to stay awake:  they sing or kick the side of the crib, or the wall, or can even bang their heads on their cribs!

However there are ways of enforcing the tradition of bedtime rituals. It’s typically best to start working on getting your kids on a schedule once your child is a few weeks old and you’ve established a regular pattern of feedings.  Now, whatever time you have set as bedtime, you’ll need to stick to it. That is the first thing about rituals, they have to be constant, and rituals at bedtime are no different. Start winding down the activities at least a half an hour before that time, so that the child is ready to go to sleep.

An excited child will not sleep because they are too wound up; relaxing activities are the name of the game before bed. This can include warm baths, listening to music, reading bedtime stories, and saying prayers. A child should be calm during this period and so should the parent and that means no loud T.V. shows, no playful wrestling with your child, no loud voices, etc. 

It is important as the child gets older that they chose at least some of the bedtime activities for their ritual at bedtime and as long as they do not stimulate a child most activities are fine. It is important for the child that they realize that it is their own personal ritual and not anyone else’s.

Bedtime rituals must last long enough for the child to know that they are important and long enough to let a child open up to you. A quick peck on the cheek does not cut it. Young kids are naturally insecure and your child needs to know that they are special and cherished. However meaningful contact also means an element of strictness. When you have tucked a child in and said goodnight, the child should not leave the bed. Some children will try a million excuses such as:  they need to go potty, they have forgotten a toy, they are thirsty, and the list goes on.

However, you know your own child, and you know that they have been to the toilet and they are not thirsty, so be firm and insist that they stay in bed.  Also, when reading to a child, you’ll want to avoid the many struggles of ‘please, just read it one more time’ so, give your child a set amount of reading every evening such as a chapter or a set number of pages or reading for twenty minutes.

In closing, both parents can have different rituals for bedtime and it is important that children have bedtime rituals with both parents, but consistency is still the key. It can always include a bath, putting ‘jammies’ on, reading, and saying prayers, then the ‘good nights’.

Creativity is fun at bedtime and you can change the style of it as the child gets older.

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Parenting troubled teenagers is one of the toughest tasks to parents and parents want to consider any sort of help which help them to deal with their troubled teenagers. As teen anger problem is the most considerable teen issues for parents a few tips from my experience and the first important tip for parents to consider is to recognize the teen anger problem is a sensible issue.

Being a sensible issue it needs to be planned to deal in that way. The second parenting tip to consider is to talk with your teens respectfully because being a teenager, some of the teens don’t like to be ordered. You will be surprised to see the results when you request them to do the things. Teens love to follow the requests.

Third important parenting tip to consider is to allow teens to understand the consequences of their mistakes, as a parent we don’t want to see or hear our teens facing problems but being covered to your teen in each and every thing is also not beneficial for them. You should allow them to take their own decisions by themselves.

Fourth important parenting tip to consider is to provide them possible options in some of your activities, this will help teens to learn new life skills such as responsibility, punctuality and creativity in doing an activity. Providing options not only help them in this way but also teens will think they are not just kids and they are handling all the activities by themselves.

Fifth parenting tip to consider is to understand the feelings of your teen instead of asking repeated questions on what had happened earlier, asking repeated questions on any issue make teens to become very angry and it may leads you to listen unusual answers. So think a bit in place of your teen in that situation and if you think their behavior is correct at that time then you understand the thing, if it is wrong then look for a time when they usually chat with you, discuss with your right suggestions on that issues.

Get more detailed teen parenting tips from specialized educational consultants and experienced parents on various teens problems. Discuss various teenage problems and find best possible answers to deal with troubled teens, visit this site for more teens parenting information http://www.troubledteensguide.com/

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In today’s world it is often easy to find others to place blame on whether you are having difficulty at office or at house. While raising kids it is significant that you not only try to encourage positive behavior but to also recognize the technique with which you are sending your message. Speaking to children will be the most useful way to get a message across but how you make use of your words can normally determine whether a kid is inclined to suggestion or shall always block something out.

An instance of the impact of conversation has been discovered by parent-child interaction specialist Laura Fobler. She has detailed in her parenting advice the importance of conversation with kids and the outcome which will be produced when you evaluate I-Messages to You-Messages. To help detail the significance of these messages I can share conversations I have had with my son and the way these messages were received in comparison.

Prior to seeking the parenting suggestion of Laura, I will say with certainty the majority of messages I sent to my child represented You-Messages. Messages such as “YOU should not have the TV so loud”, “You need to stay out of the garden”, “You should know better,” and “If YOU do not stop that you will be in timeout.” All of these messages could be interpreted as threatening or unsupportive, leaving a child on their very own taking blame and looking out for solutions. This shall be a very negative method of parenting and was something I had not considered earlier.

In an attempt to improve my parenting methods I have adopted the parenting guidance of utilizing I-Messages which my child has more positively reacted to. Instead of saying something like “YOU should not have the TV so loud” I say “When the TV is so loud, I can’t hear Mom.” It makes the problem about me and my son is often eager to help out another person rather than be ridiculed. One more instance is seen with the statement, “YOU need to stay out of the garden.” Instead of sending the You-Message I make it about me again by stating, “I am not going to be able to enjoy the garden if the flowers are stepped on.” Again my child identifies how important the garden is to me and actively tries to avoid damaging it.

The simple change of conversation from You-Messages to I-Messages has significantly altered how my son perceives conversations we have. This is only one lesson I have been able to advantage from by pursing the parenting advice provided by Laura Fobler.

If you are fascinated in varying the dynamic of conversation between you and your children along with many other useful tips, go to http://laurafobler.com. Laura Fobler, founder of this website will teach people about being a successful parent because most of the people lack a healthy dose of confidence. Apparently, despite being well intended, most parents need to acquire more knowledge and skills to make a success of their parenting. Visit the website and get the best parenting advice.

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